Map who's really carrying what in your home. Use this before the conversation — not during it.
How to assign each task: Assign to whoever owns more than 60% of the work — planning, tracking, executing and following up. If it's genuinely equal, mark as Shared. If it doesn't apply to your household, mark N/A.
Me
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Partner
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External
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N/A
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Distribution across all tasks0 of 30 assigned
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✅ Looking balanced. Your load distribution is within 30% — that's worth noting. Keep checking in as life changes.
Your results
Weight distribution
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You
Overall task distribution
Breakdown by category
What comes next
You've just mapped out your current situation.
Most people stop here.
A 1-2-1 Systems Audit is where you figure out what to do with what you found — and how to have the conversation that changes things.
Your results are data. The Systems Audit turns that data into a plan your household can actually run on.